Love and caring can be penetrating.
"One of the teachers of the law came and heard them debating. Noticing that Jesus had given them a good answere, he asked him,"of all the commandments, which is the most important?" " The most important one," answered Jesus, "is this: "Hear, O Israel, the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength," The second is this: Love your neighbor as yourself." There is no commandment greater than these"(Mark 12:28-31).
When we have a grasp of the magnitude of the love we received from our Lord that is totally underserving, it should drop us to our knees. It also should cause us to see how we are with those around us. If we see ourselves as underserving and God is willing to love us. So when we are loving the Lord our God with all of our heart, and with all our soul and with all of our mind and with all of our strength; then, we will love our neighbor with care! Yes, we are to love ourselves. This may not be popular in theology, but Christ does say love others as we love outselves. Keeping in mind if we hate ourself then we will not be able to love others.